Not only have black women been portrayed as unable to find a “good” man and drama queens, we are also horrible friends. Almost every time I see a reality show, I begin to cringe when the black female comes on camera because I know there is about to be some drama. I can’t understand why we aren’t peaceful, playful and fun loving. Why are we always ready to start drama or fight someone? Why are most of our relationships built on finances or good looks? To add fuel to the fire, we are not even faithful to our girls, we talk about them behind their backs, find ways to sabotage and manipulate them… the list goes on and on.
I am sure this drama-filled life is the typical black woman experience for many but not all of us are like this. It may come as a shock after everything you’ve seen on television about us but most of us are really nice people. We are not all catty, high strung, drama queen, gold diggers. We are not all materialistic and looking to hook up with any and every celebrity/ professional athlete that crosses our path. Some of us have real jobs, real friends and stable relationships. Brace yourself, some of us even give back to our communities, advocate for good causes and spend more time helping others than we spend shopping.
I’m almost done… if you want respect from any woman, you should try giving her respect. Some of the women that have all of this drama are acting out and seeking attention to compensate for a void in their lives. If we stop highlighting their destructive behavior and using it as a public example for other women to follow, we may save our future generations of women. Let’s focus more on women who are trying to make something of their lives than the ones living with no regard for anyone than themselves because there is nothing wrong with black women. Just like every other race, we just have a few bad apples.
BY Lakesha Womack